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“Paint a picture of that person treading water alone in the ocean. When we extend logic, explanation, insults and avoidance to them, they just sink deeper. Arms flailing, they’re barely able to keep their head above water.” Continue reading

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You can’t put the cart before the horse. High Conflict People need to be calmed before they can find the bridge to logic. Continue reading

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“Every time you react to the attacks, you are fueling the High-Conflict Person’s fire to continue with even more attacks.” Continue reading

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Your divorce isn’t like your friends divorce, yours is different. Your divorce is high conflict. You need strong and secure boundaries, clear and concise communication and you need to document your Ex’s manipulative behaviors. Continue reading

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The High-Conflict Person’s deeply-felt belief that they’re right and you’re wrong results in an intensity that scares us, so we end up avoiding them altogether or bending the boundaries to avoid being yelled at or even feeling uncomfortable. Continue reading

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“Unless they feel comfortable in saying ‘I don’t see it, can you tell me why it is obvious to you’? You are in conflict and you don’t know it.” Continue reading

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“Let your child experience you not as angry, defensive or even offensive. Let your child experience you as untouched by the nasty comments or innuendo because if it is untrue, there is nothing to defend against and you move on.” Continue reading

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“You can’t pay attention to the outside world when you’re busy reacting. So how can you manage your emotions in situations like this?” Continue reading

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“When one of you decides to file for divorce there is often an expectation that somehow this will change. The other person will now see your point and finally change their perspective, after all you must have gotten their full and undivided attention now! Right? Hmmm…not so fast.” Continue reading

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Bill Eddy (a certified Family Law Specialist in California) has written a marvelous and succinct book on how to deal with (what he calls), High Conflict Personalities. He defines a high conflict personality as one who lacks the skills for being … Continue reading

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