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Your tendency will be to have and desire as little contact with the HCP as possible. Don’t fall into that trap. Continue reading

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If you act reasonably and use the cooperative problem-solving skills you use in daily life, you risk losing your case, your kids and your property because family court is a highly adversarial process that rewards combative thinking and behavior. Continue reading

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“When one of you decides to file for divorce there is often an expectation that somehow this will change. The other person will now see your point and finally change their perspective, after all you must have gotten their full and undivided attention now! Right? Hmmm…not so fast.” Continue reading

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“Here is a question I would like to see addressed. My ex is a sociopath (at best). I will write him over Talking Parents asking a very simple question that should take a 5 second response. For example, yesterday, I asked him, “Did [our son] have a nap today?” He read it at 5 PM yesterday and responded at 11 AM this morning. ” Continue reading

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Excerpted from the book Don’t Alienate the Kids! Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce by Bill Eddy, Esq., CFLS,  LCSW. _____________________ In this chapter, I explain a theory of child alienation that I have developed called “1000 Little Bricks.” It’s based … Continue reading

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In the wake of yet another school shooting, I, like many others, am wondering why.  What drives a young person (or anyone else) to shoot their friends and relatives, apparently for no reason anyone can discern. I say that understanding … Continue reading

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This blog is dedicated to coping with difficult communications and High-Conflict People. All too often, parents get caught up in a contentious split and the children hear it all. When that happens, some parents are faced with the decision of … Continue reading

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It’s the person you might call a control freak.  It could be your sister, supervisor, father or someone else close to you. They make you feel like you can’t move without being watched and judged.  The following is Bill Eddy’s take, in a … Continue reading

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by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.  “How do I deal with my narcissistic boss?” is the most common complaint I get about high-conflict people in the workplace. They are everywhere, and seem to be increasing these days – from the lowest … Continue reading

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The BIFF Response(sm) Method at Work – A new Article by Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESq.  Hostile mail – especially email, texts and other electronic communications – has become much more common in the workplace over the past decade. Most of this mail is … Continue reading

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This month the second edition was published of Bill Eddy’s book BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Hostile Emails, Personal Attacks and Social Media Meltdowns. High Conflict Institute’s BIFF ResponseSM Coordinator, Trissan Dicomes, interviewed Bill about this second … Continue reading

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DOES THIS PERSON MAKE YOU NUTS? Theatrical, dramatic Superficial Exaggerates, lies Constant crises, needs help Intense, shifting emotions People with a Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) can be extremely irritating and unpredictable.  The American Psychiatric Association has estimated that 2-3% of … Continue reading

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HAVE YOU MET THIS PERSON? -Tries to dominate you -Disruptive/volatile -Disregard for laws/social rules -Frequently lie and mislead you, -Manipulative -Lacks remorse/empathy/respect for your rights There is a very wide range of people in the Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) group. … Continue reading

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 DO YOU FEEL TRAPPED BY THIS PERSON? -Intense anger -Sudden mood swings -Emotionally manipulative -Seeks revenge/vindication -Impulsive, self-destructive -Clingy, needy The NIH estimated 5.9% of the population has a Borderline Personality Disorder.* Living next door to a person with BPD … Continue reading

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A College Example– Imagine checking into your hotel room on a business trip, only to find a randomly assigned, half-dressed roommate and empty take-out boxes strewn about.   It’s just like that for many roomies, on campus or off.  You want … Continue reading

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Have you ever found yourself in an argument with someone who just can’t understand your point of view? Maybe you tried to convince someone what he did was wrong, and felt like if you explained it well enough, things would … Continue reading

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